Every relationship has two sides to it. Anyone seeking to enter a romantic relationship must strike a balance with their other half to ensure longevity and sizzling chemistry. But there’s more to it than that. So what is it people look for in their ideal partner?
Earlier this week, we got millennial women to tell us what their Mr Right looks like. In this article, millennial men paint the picture of their dream girl.
Now, guys are often considered to want just one thing from the ladies (yes, we’re talking about that). However, that’s far from the truth. It’s time to delve deep into the abyss that is a burning question of our times: what do men really want?
We asked a few men to tell us what they need from the queen of their hearts.
What Makes Our Perfect Woman
“I don’t think the core ingredients have ever changed, be it Gen-X or the millennial generation. Beyond the hashtags and the emojis, the only things that really matter are trust, respect and understanding. It’s an all-or-none kind of deal,” says Shaunak (24) from Mumbai, who’s been in a relationship with his childhood sweetheart Manali (24) since they were in school together.
As Shaunak rightly says, the core prerequisites revolve around trust, respect and understanding. Ladies, if you’re reading this, these three are the real hacks to his heart (and food, of course!).
We asked around a little more and stumbled upon Kevin (29, Mangalore), who’s been married for two years with Kavisha (28).
“Ours was an arranged marriage and as is normal, we were both apprehensive at first. Surprisingly and fortunately, things went incredibly well in our ‘getting-to-know-each-other’ phase before the formalities. In the end, I discovered the qualities that attracted me the most were her integrity, intelligence and her shared intolerance for infidelity. And of course, the need for adequate intimacy!” he says.
In the modern-era of speed dating and job hopping, it’s apparently clear that most men like things to be a little less uncertain and more predictable – with just the right amount of innovation to keep the spark alive through changing times.
An intelligent woman who does what she says and takes commitment seriously is more appealing to the millennial man looking for his lady.
There you have it, these are actually the most important things to a man on the hunt. However, there’s definitely a need to address the most puzzling question that always arises: do looks really matter to men?
“Not technically speaking. Confidence is key – if you’re confident about how you look as a woman and can carry yourself well, you will attract suitors, regardless of how you may think you look,” says Pranay (21, Chennai).
He adds, “Most men know that physical appearance will eventually wane – it’s the more significant things that matter in the long run. Yes, making an effort to look good will go a long way, but confidence takes precedence over looks, to most of us at least.”
The ideal woman is a concoction of trust, respect and understanding married with integrity, intelligence and intimacy. Add a dash of confidence and a sprinkle of self-belief and voila – you now hold the recipe for our favourite kinda gal!
A message to the ladies reading this: You could have all or none of these qualities, but you know what they say – beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If he loves you for who you are, as you are, that’s all that really matters, right?
What do you think men look for in their ideal woman? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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