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Is Love A Prerequisite For Lovemaking?

True or false: only soulmates enjoy sex

Tinder. Hinge. Truly Madly. Bumble. For a millennial population that’s increasingly gravitating towards the casual dating and hook up scene, to say there’s no dearth of options would be an understatement.

Such is the demand, actually, that there’s a very real dating app called Coffee Meets Bagel that’s successfully doing the rounds too!

And that begs the question: what about love? What about ‘saving it’ for that special someone? And what about the innumerable stories of waiting for that one true love that the 90s Bollywood movies successfully sold to us?

Well, DDLJ was more than twenty years ago — and today’s Raj and Simran’s take on intimacy is, well, slightly (read: significantly) different.

Here’s what fellow millennials think:

Lovemaking is Purely Physical

Deeksha Sharma, a 23-year old student, says, “Love is abstract. Lovemaking, on the other hand, is purely physical. These worlds don’t mix, they clash.

“Sex is a biological need — however, throughout history, we have wrapped it in fairy lights, sprinkled it with fairy dust, and for the sake of monogamy, called it lovemaking.”

Deeksha, who resides in Bangalore, believes that there’s a prime carnal need driving you, and that’s all there is to it.

“Personally, I don’t think an iota of love is in play when you’re at it. Everyone has a different definition of love, but the definition of sex is simple and universal.

“To sum it up, desires might be a prerequisite for lovemaking, but love itself on the other hand isn’t. They’re two very different variables that cannot be compared.”

Lovemaking is Not Just Sex

The fact is, though, that terms like sex and lovemaking are often used interchangeably as synonyms, which complicates this issue further. Is it incorrect to say that you made love on that one night stand, or to say that you have sex with your partner every night?

Arjun Khosla’s take on the matter, though, is slightly different. “Sex is a physical experience which is primarily instinctive. Purely from a biological perspective, an emotional connection isn’t necessary, and that is obvious.”

An actor by profession, Arjun (26)  feels that the nomenclature is of importance. Although sex and lovemaking are two sides of the same coin, it’s called lovemaking because it is, to quite an extent, driven by an emotions.

“(Lovemaking) is passionate, slow, and often quite sensual. It’s not just sex. Because of the emotional connection people share, it means a lot, lot more than that.

“So at the end of the day, I would say it depends on your definition of the act, really.”

For the 21st century urban Indian, love isn’t necessarily a prerequisite to have sex. At the same time, for many, sex is an emotional experience — and love truly and wholly does play a role in it even today.

What’s your take on the matter? Let us know your views by commenting below.

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