Relationships: those things we force ourselves to get into because humans are social animals who dread dying alone. To overcome this paranoia, we force ourselves to go on dates — often with random attractive strangers — and choose to hit and miss until we settle for what we think is the perfect partner.
But get a load of this: what if your perfect partner was right by your side all along?
Let’s be honest, dating your best friend makes complete sense in theory. You love each other, care about each other, your parents probably love them too, and you can spend what seems like a lifetime with each other without getting bored. And there’s plenty of successful examples in pop culture to back that too — Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher, John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, and hell, even Rahul and Anjali from Kuch Kuch Hota Hai prove that ‘pyaar dosti hai’, after all!
However, there are two factors that you have no control over: sexual attraction, and the fact that a beautiful friendship might be destroyed if the experiment fails.
Which brings us to our question: is it worth the risk?
Well, 33-year-old Shilpa Kawatra certainly thinks so. “My husband and I were absolute BFFs for about four years before we got together. Although he was my school mate, we only started talking in college. We shared everything, including the details of our flings and relationships like all best friends do — and it took me a while but I finally realised he was the one!”
Shilpa, a freelance content writer by profession, says she and her best friend dated for two years before deciding to tie the knot. “When people ask me if it’s wise to marry your best friend, I will always loudly say yes! A marriage is still a marriage and requires a lot of work, but the best part is you can relax and not panic, as you know your best friend will understand all your issues. He has been my pillar of strength through thick and thin. We fight too, like any other couple, but we still chat like we did as best friends. We know each other in and out, there are no inhibitions. All in all, the best feeling is the realisation that I’m growing old with my best friend.”
Shilpa may have been lucky, but what if it all goes wrong? Mahira Sahar, thus, is understandably skeptical. “A romantic relationship is quite, quite different from a platonic friendship. If a series of misunderstandings, or worse, infidelity comes into the picture, you’ll lose a person who mattered to you immensely,” says the 25-year old investment banker. She continues, “Sure, chances are you’re lucky and you’ll find your soulmate disguised as your best friend, but if luck’s not on your side, you stand to lose plenty. The pros might outweigh the cons, I agree, but it’s still a huge risk to take, considering there’s no going back once you’ve crossed that line.”
Dating your best friend certainly seems like a case of high risk, high rewards. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll lose a great deal — but as Shilpa said, if it does, is there anything more beautiful than growing old with your best friend?
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