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The Journey From Self-Doubt To Self-Love

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The Journey From Self-Doubt To Self-Love

Rid yourself of self-doubt and become your biggest cheerleader instead

Life isn’t easy — we get pulled in so many directions every single day. It’s only natural that sometimes we feel helpless and overwhelmed by our lack of control. But a lot of us suffer from something far worse on a daily basis: a niggling feeling of not being good enough.

We feel we are not equipped to deal with the challenges life throws at us. Since our thoughts control our actions, believing that you are inadequate leads to holding yourself back and not being able to cope.

Since that just sucks, let’s take a look at what you can do to rid yourself of crippling self-doubt, so you can become your biggest cheerleader instead.

Identify that It’s All in Your Head

Negative self-talk is one of the biggest reasons for having poor self-image. You have to learn to silence or ignore the inner critic — and it’s a process, not an event. What I do to deal with mine is follow the advice of confidence coach Alexa Fischer.

She believes you must personify and ‘introduce yourself’ to your inner critic, and begin to work with them (instead of feeling bogged down by them). The sooner you begin to work with this part of yourself, the sooner you will find the quiet confidence you need to sail through life, she says.

Whenever my critic begins to get unconstructively critical, I tell him that he had better pipe down, as he is in no position to critique me! Try this trick, it could work wonders for you too.

Keep Moving Forward

Sometimes, the inner critic isn’t so easy to ignore. In such cases, it’s best to push through and do what you want to anyway.

Instead of letting fear paralyse you, work towards whatever it is you have set out to achieve — be it pursuing your dream job, fixing or terminating toxic relationships, learning a new skill, etc.

Gujarat based assistant professor Sandeep Mishra (26) says we need to have a die hard, adaptive attitude to achieve our goals. “If God takes away my eyes, I’ll work hard and become a singer. If God takes away my voice, I’ll work extremely hard and become a painter.

“If God takes away my hands, I will work harder and become a runner. Basically, I am gonna do something with my life that I am proud of, whether I have everything or nothing.”

Get Inspiration from Others

Sometimes, the best way to turn on your confidence is to look for it in others. There are plenty of real-life inspirational stories all around us. Accounts of people who persisted and succeeded against all odds are particularly motivating.

Bangalore-based author Alcatraz Dey (27) sums up why. “There are handicapped and paralysed people running marathons and triathlons out there. You know why? Because they want to. I see no reason why you should be holding back yourself to achieve your goals.”

And finally, the most important thing to remember is this: you are not alone. Most of us experience negativism all too often. All you can do to deal with such thoughts is to confront them and keep moving forward.

No matter how incapable you think you are, value yourself and just do it. That’s the only way to set yourself free to reach your potential.

What do you do to eliminate your feelings of inadequacy? Let us know in the comments below.

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Mahevash Shaikh is the twenty-something author of Busting Clichés. She loves to write, draw and laugh (among other things). You can find her using words and pictures to express herself and redefine the word "normal" at

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