Marriage is a big word riddled with expectations and responsibilities. Speaking of responsibilities, well, surely we are not ready for them. I mean, how mature can we be in our 20s?
I overheard a couple of girls discussing the matter when one of them said, “God! One should never get married. Love and marriage are traps. Live your life the way you want.” So the idea of getting married got shunned by a fellow millennial ’cause apparently, marriage is jail for us free folks and we are too cool for this stuff!
Let’s get this straight guys–getting married is not uncool.
There are so many adults who would rather choose to be in a live-in relationship than get married. The reason is simple; they don’t want to take up any more responsibility than they’re already bogged with. After all, in India, you don’t get married to your spouse alone, but his or her entire family—parents, uncles, aunts, cousins, everyone.
As the Family Guy Peter Griffin would say at this point, “Where are those good old-fashioned values, on which we used to rely!” Well, they haven’t gone anywhere, to be honest. They are just hiding behind this pretentious mask of modernity—a ‘Western mindset’ and a sense of coolness, which people don with pride while making fun of those who don’t.
Here are some hard-hitting truths to help you see that marriage is not such a bad idea after all.
- Support: You’ll always have a shoulder to lean on in times of distress, and a true buddy to share the big and small joys of life with.
- Maturity: Stability, as we talk of it today, does not come from a high-paying job. It comes through a mature, stable mind. Marriage is probably a step forward in this direction.
- Family Bond: Money can’t buy happiness, but a family can give you that and a lot more for free!
- Financial Sanity: As a single, managing finances may get a bit too messy. Financial responsibility or rather sanity comes in when you have a personal advisor by your side.
If these reasons didn’t steer you in favour of marriage, then a first-hand account might.
Parijat Gupta, marketing manager at Hyatt Regency, Chennai got married at 26. This is what she had to say about her decision after completing 18 months of love and life with her husband, “It has been like never before. Everything has changed and still, I am the same. Mine was a two states wedding so we rejoice together on all occasions of both states, respecting both cultures. And yes, I now have a roommate forever.”
Getting married is not about tying the knot around each other’s necks and choking each other everyday. It is about having someone by your side when the world seems shallow. It involves love, not from a single person but a number of others, who welcome you into their lives as their own.
Still wondering if it’s too early for you to take such a drastic step? Read what Akshat Kapur, a budding writer and a student of philosophy at IGNOU, had to say about it, “Honestly speaking, marriage is a matter of love, and love basically transcends age, which is just a number in the end.”
We were born free. Our independence does not depend on anyone else but ourselves—think about it!